This past week brought a huge breakthrough for me—the kind that realigns everything quietly but completely. I won’t go into the details of that shift (not today), but what I do want to talk about is what we do with sadness and heartbreak.
Most of us handle sadness like a leaky faucet. A few drips here, a puddle there, and yet we soldier on as if nothing’s wrong. I don’t recommend it.
A Radical Choice
Instead, I suggest something radical: FEEL. Let that emotion rise and flow over you. Sit with it. Feel it. Let it do what it came to do.
The difference between pain and suffering is profound:
- Pain comes up and, when acknowledged, eventually moves on.
- Suffering hides out, lingers, and infiltrates everything you do. It is what happens when you run from pain rather than face it.
ALL or Nothing
This week, I had plenty to be sad about. I also had plenty to be joyful about. But I didn’t give either emotion the space it deserved. I treated them like movie trailers: “Okay, great… now where’s the main feature?”
I’m learning (again) that emotions aren’t just previews. They are the movie. And they are sacred teachers when we give them room.
yes, It is all about the feelings
Sacred Emotion Check-In
- Create Space: Stop. Breathe. Place your left hand on your right shoulder (to encompass your heart chakra).
- Ask: “How do I feel right now?”
- Discern: Is this emotion mine or someone else’s?
- Honor: Say aloud: “I honor this feeling as sacred and allow it to move through me.”
- Bless and Release: If it’s not yours, offer it back with love. If it is yours, thank it and allow it to pass.
You can do this anytime emotions start to feel like noise in the background. Let them move from noise to message.
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Making space to feel the good, the bad, and the indifferent is essential. I have a similar process where I take time to feel (especially the ones I want to avoid). I find it a great way to manage stress and joy.
Agreed! Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for that today. Being raised as a stoic I sometimes confuse my wet eyes as allergies rather than tears. It has taken a long time and I still catch myself.
That is so beautiful.
I have a comfy corner in my room where I go when I need quiet time. But today something isn’t right, I’m not really suffering, not sure maybe because the rainy weather but I just can’t get myself to do anything production and can hardly stay awake. I think my staying awake all night is catching up with me.
It sounds like it! I hope you got some rest.