Building Your Own Support Beam

When you’re in an evolutionary moment — what some call upleveling — it can feel like you’re watching the same movie on repeat, desperately looking for the exit that leads to light and freedom.

During these times, we often feel unsupported by the world, which at its root means we feel disconnected from the Divine. Most of us don’t speak directly about what we need; instead, we complain or cry out about what we’re not getting.

Support Looks Different for Everyone

Support looks different for each of us, yet the feeling of being unsupported seeps into every corner of life.

Last week, I was having one of those days. I dropped Warner’s charcoal toothpaste — lid off — and suddenly there was charcoal everywhere. On the counter, the floor, even the ceiling. I stood there in tears, staring at the mess, feeling completely unsupported and overwhelmed.

In that moment, I asked myself: How can I transform this feeling of being unsupported into feeling supported?

Your Support Beam

That’s when the words “support beam” popped into my head.

A support beam holds the structure steady. It’s supported at both ends, distributing the load evenly. If you remove it, the building collapses.

This, I realized, is how many of us experience support. We look to relationships, work, or circumstances to hold us up — but they can’t be our primary beam. We must become our own.

Once you take ownership of being your own support beam, everything else — relationships, community, opportunities — becomes like the nails that reinforce your strength. They don’t hold you up; they strengthen what’s already there.

So I asked myself: What beliefs anchor each end of my beam?

Here’s the exercise I created — and it might serve you too:That’s when the words “support beam” popped into my head.

A support beam holds the structure steady. It’s supported at both ends, distributing the load evenly. If you remove it, the building collapses.

This, I realized, is how many of us experience support. We look to relationships, work, or circumstances to hold us up — but they can’t be our primary beam. We must become our own.

Once you take ownership of being your own support beam, everything else — relationships, community, opportunities — becomes like the nails that reinforce your strength. They don’t hold you up; they strengthen what’s already there.

So I asked myself: What beliefs anchor each end of my beam?

Here’s the exercise I created — and it might serve you too:

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You’ll need a pen and paper.

  1. Sit comfortably and focus your awareness on your tailbone — your foundation.
  2. Take a deep breath and ask your Soul:
    “What belief keeps my support beam standing?”
  3. Write down the first word or phrase that comes. Don’t judge it.

My answer was courage — which perfectly matches my Soul Language of the Graceful Warrior.

When I start to feel unsupported, I settle into that belief. I remind myself: Courage is the beam. your support beam

Your Circle

I surround myself with individuals and spaces that acknowledge that beam, reflect my strength, and help me carry the load when I forget.

That’s why I created Soul Fire Circle — a mini one-on-one and group experience to help you strengthen both your internal and external actions, so you can create what you truly desire in life and business.

You deserve to feel supported by yourself, the Divine, and your community.
Your beam is strong — it just needs tending.

You can learn more about the Soul Fire Circle by clicking here.

Jennifer Urezzio is a Soul-whispering, BS-incinerating, divine codebreaker who moonlights as an intuitive strategist but secretly operates as a full-time interdimensional translator for your Soul’s deepest truth.

She didn’t just found Soul Language—she channeled an entire spiritual dialect from the primordial soup of the Divine and turned it into a system that makes your therapist weep and your higher self applaud. She’s the one the angels call when they need a communications upgrade.

Imagine if Carl Jung and Joan of Arc had a love child raised by Oracle whales and trained in intuitive jiu-jitsu by cosmic monks—that’s Jennifer. She doesn’t do gentle nudges. She throws spiritual lightning bolts wrapped in velvet. She’ll read your energetic mail, highlight the parts you’ve been avoiding, and hand you a blueprint for sovereignty with a side of “get over yourself.”

She can decode your divine operating system in less time than it takes your ego to panic. Her clients don’t just transform—they quantum leap into unapologetic alignment, drop their karmic baggage at the curb, and finally stop asking the Universe for permission.

She is not here to help you play nice with your potential. She is here to wake it the F$%& up.

3 thoughts on “Building Your Own Support Beam”

  1. I *really* like this activity. My support beam word is “love.”

    I enjoy all the resonance here (including charcoal toothpaste)! So much in common. But most of all I love that you were able to pivot in the moment and wonder how you could feel supported.

  2. I didn’t know there was such a thing as charcoal toothpaste! Right away a mouthful of black teeth pops into my head.:-) I love the concept of being your own support beam. And really we need to be. Courage, strength and love are good support beams. Thanks for your post.

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